A Penny Of My Thoughts

Just finished a long phone chat with YK, well, the gathering during this coming Saturday has been cancelled because HM is going overseas. So much for a pre-organized gathering. Ha!

Everyone is busy. Busy with work, busy with studies, busy with bf/gf, busy with children, busy with watching TV (Me! Me! Me!) busy with lots and lots of things. Do people really communicate heart-to-heart nowsaday?

Even with YK, we would like, say, call each other once or twice a year? haha...but the good things is that we would always keep each other updated during the annual phone chat. Had given him an as-according-to-him-I-am-sounding-too-harsh-and-might-face-the-risk-of-loosing-a-friend lecture about him and his ex-girlfriend. Come to think of it, perhaps that was the reason why I had lost a friend during years ago. I might have been too harsh on that friend even when the thought of knowing the truth that he didn't really treat the friendship of the group very seriously had pissed me off. Like what YK had suggested, I might have to use more 'detours' in my phrase so as not to loose a friend, even a close one.

Hmmm...what can I say? If today's chat happened during ten years ago, perhaps I might loose another friend eh?

But, I did rebut him back for I don't really think I was harsh but was stern. Because the subject that we were on required some stern tone and I think I have had delivered my thoughts to him well. The sad case is that when it comes to POV on relationship, guys and gals tend to think poles apart. So, that was why he felt that I was a little out of the limit because he could only comprehend his own suffering and not the other party's.

But hey, I am no longer the lady during ten years ago! After all those years of self-reprimanding and suffering for loosing two friends, I know where I stand when comes to a lecture. I don't anyhow lecture people one unless I can foresee the seriousness of the consequences.

For this case, I am really feeling very sorry for M.Y. and I really hope that YK is able to make a breakthrough even when I have to take the risk of loosing a friendship, but I know, he won't want to throw away this friendship for he is now much more sensible than 10 years ago. Anyway, he was the one who brought out the issue of BGR, so indirectly, he was asking for it! Heheee!

But just a penny of my thoughts, I've learnt a lesson as well from him. That is, I might need to control myself or my words or my tone even though when I know I am correct. Haha!

A friend is a gift from god and I already lost two. The punishment was 8 years suffering of mild depression. I don't really have another 8 more years to waste.

Together, let's us make the world a better place to be in.